Creating courageous space is opening ourselves up to what is possible by releasing what no longer serves us.
— The Courage Practice
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ON OUR SPACE

Digital | Dwellings | Development

Where we place our focus matters.

We can declutter or we can create space.

What feels good to you?

Our spaces powerfully reveal pieces of who we are. Each space is a mirror into our interior life.

Whether our home, automobile, smartphone, gym locker, community, workspace, or inner selves, our spaces offer insightful pieces into our narrative while illuminating both our devotion & distractions.

THE SPACES WE OCCUPY

DWELLING SPACES: Homes, automobiles or transport vehicles, work spaces, gym lockers, communities, houses of worship, vacation destinations, and our own bodies.

DIGITAL SPACES: Phones, tablets, computers, televisions, radios, email inboxes, workout tracking devices, social media, audio books, digital subscriptions, etc.

DEVELOPMENT: Professional, personal, physical, mental, EMOTIONAL, & spiritual development.

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FEELING THE VOID OR FILLING THE VOID?

ANY OF THESE SOUND FAMILIAR?

  • Cleaning like a fiend while processing an event/situation internally

  • Watching or scrolling a screen mindlessly to connect with others or to disconnect with ourselves

  • Drinking inspirational kool-aid every day on social media to fortify our development efforts

  • Accumulating as a means of reward, grief, or simply to feel something

  • Hiding things in drawers, closets, storage units, or garages to ‘deal with it later.’

  • Engaging in numbing agents of every kind to either disengage with our emotions or better access them


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THE FOUR STEPS TO CREATING COURAGEOUS SPACE

STEP ONE

HONOR OUR HISTORY & REALITY

(WHERE WE ARE & HOW WE GOT HERE)

  • HONOR OUR HISTORY: INHERITED & CHOSEN

  • GET HONEST ABOUT CURRENT RELATIONSHIP TO EACH SPACE

  • MAKE THE INTERNAL EXTERNAL: WRITE IT DOWN & TELL A TRUSTED CONFIDANTE

STEP TWO

ACKNOWLEDGE OUR DISTRACTIONS

  • OBSERVE & NAME THE DISTRACTIONS FOR OUR SPACES

  • WHERE DO WE LEVERAGE OUR DISTRACTIONS TO AVOID SPECIFIC SPACE(S)?

  • WHERE DO WE PROJECT OUR OWN DISTRACTIONS UPON OTHERS?

  • MAKE THE INTERNAL EXTERNAL: WRITE IT DOWN & TELL A TRUSTED CONFIDANTE

STEP THREE

ESTABLISH THE DEVOTION

  • NAME OUR DESIRES IN EACH SPACE: DWELLING | DIGITAL | DEVELOPMENT

  • LISTEN TO OUR FIRST RESPONSE & ITS EMOTION

  • ESTABLISH A DEVOTION TO EACH SPACE TO CREATE THIS DESIRE

  • MAKE THE INTERNAL EXTERNAL: WRITE IT DOWN & TELL A TRUSTED CONFIDANTE

STEP FOUR

BEGIN DELIBERATE PRACTICE

  • WHEN THE PRACTICE ASKS OF OUR COURAGE, IT ASKS OF OUR CONSCIOUSNESS

  • SHARE YOUR PRACTICE WITH A TRUSTED CONFIDANTE

  • BUILD COMMUNITY: INVOLVE YOUR FAVORITE PEOPLE IN YOUR PRACTICE

  • HONOR PROGRESS IN A WAY THAT FURTHER OPENS YOUR HEART

  • ALLOW THE PRACTICE TO EVOLVE WITH YOU & KEEP GOING


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THE TWO AVENUES OF CREATION

  • FROM THE OUTSIDE IN: Creating more external space in our lives opens our hearts, expands our energy, cultivates immense inner freedom, and naturally deepens our practice of courage.

  • FROM THE INSIDE OUT: Creating more space from within through meditation as well as personal and spiritual development, which expands our intuition and inspires us to create external spaces that powerfully reflect our inner life.

    WITH EITHER DIRECTION…

Focus on what you desire more than what you are releasing (Energy)

  • Devote and practice (Engagement)

  • Observe the heart connection (Expansion)

Our spaces and how we interact with them powerfully reveal pieces of who we are. Every space in our external life is a mirror into our internal life.
— The Courage Practice

FACTS & FIGURES: OUR RELATIONSHIP TO SPACES

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ON OUR DWELLING SPACES

The rise of HGTV highlights our love of creating spaces that function efficiently, beautifully, and mindfully while offering equal parts peace, pleasure, and purpose. We absolutely love the process of ripping up the old in our lives and creating something new.

This applies to every dwelling space we regularly occupy — our homes, cars, communities, and even our own bodies.

Our culture is chock full of choice after choice. There is always another option and another avenue to explore —whether for an external dwelling space or an inner one. Yet the more we fill our spaces, the less we can see what we truly possess.

  • We are highly devoted to wealth and highly distracted by consumerism.

  • The average American home holds 300,000 items and consistently uses both 1/3 of its space and its belongings.

  • The remaining 2/3 of our belongings are held onto for emotional reasons or ‘just in case’ scarcity mindset purposes.

  • 70% of Americans do not clean/maintain their automobile dwelling spaces unless their career or family requires it.

  • Less than 30% of Americans create a personalized space in their workplaces.

  • 97% of Americans do not honor the space they occupy within their own bodies. Just 3% love their bodies as they are.

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ON OUR DIGITAL SPACES

Our digital spaces are consuming our lives. Full stop. As I wrote these words in a coffee shop, I looked around to see that every patron in the shop was on a screen, including me. We live, work, learn, and socialize by screen now.

In January 2019, numerous publications indicated the average human now spends over 8.5 hours a day on a screen — whether a phone, computer, television, or tablet. Yet the more time we spend in the digital environment, the more lonely we become with rates of loneliness doubling since the 1980s.

  • We are highly devoted to the dopamine hits of every digital experience and distracted by the fear of missing out or feeling the void.

  • We occupy digital spaces to both connect and disconnect — often simultaneously.

  • We use an average of nine mobile apps religiously every day.

  • We regularly engage (via a like or a comment) to only 1/3 of what we observe on social media daily.

  • We download an average of 30 apps to our phones or tablets, and only use 1/3 of these apps consistently.

  • We take pictures everyday (of everything) and only 1/3 of these pictures are looked at again.

  • MarketWatch states the average adult scrolls to the sun and back in equivalent miles (209 million miles) every year.

  • The average American is 70% more concerned about losing their smartphone than anything else they own as it is the key gateway to their day-to-day actions, interactions, and often the guardian to pieces of their narrative.

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ON OUR DEVELOPMENT SPACE

While we slowly accumulate in our dwellings and spend most of our time in digital spaces, we must not neglect our development space. The personal development industry is growing rapidly worldwide.

According to Marketdata, the personal development industry was the second-fastest growing industry in the world, trailing only technology. In Fall 2018, the personal development industry reached $10 billion and is estimated to grow an average of 5% every year.

Yet the narrative of how and why we develop ourselves is changing too.

Our culture is often caught between the delightful tension of accepting ourselves as we are while also engaging in efforts to unwrap our fullest potential through conscious development.

Within the personal development industry itself, wE hear equal cries for a focus in ‘being’ and a focus in ‘becoming.’

The desire to unlearn is now as common as the desire to learn. (P.S. Stay tuned for ‘Courageous Unlearning™, an online course coming soon to The Courage Practice.) Regardless of age or circumstance, what is our common desire for development? Personal development that brings our being and doing together in an integrated way; thus the rise in personal coaching in and outside of the workplace.

  • We are highly devoted to our development when it directly creates greater access to opportunity and net gains.

  • We are highly distracted from consistency in personal development when we do not experience immediate impact.

  • 1/3 of all Americans invest in their personal or professional development in a specific way every year.

  • We spend 1/3 of our time trying to improve some aspect of our development — physically, mentally, emotionally.

  • 60% of working Americans state they will invest in their own development only if their employer pays for it.

  • Organizational learning and development programs are commonly focused on the human doing rather than the human being.

  • 96% of our personal development practices wane without consistent support from others and our environments.

Environment is stronger than willpower.
— Yogananda
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THE CONNECTION TO OUR HEART SPACE

Throughout my research on our digital and dwelling spaces, I noticed that 1/3 kept emerging. 1/3 of our spaces used, 1/3 of our belongings used, 1/3 of our focus spent on development.

This led me to an interesting correlation that feels like it matters to this conversation and to this practice of creating courageous space.

  • We regularly share 1/3 of our proverbial hearts with others. This 1/3 is devoted to our favorite people, ourselves, our community, favorite causes, and the world.

  • We protect another 1/3 of our proverbial hearts from others due to past hurts, trauma, unresolved conflicts, and lack of self-forgiveness. In short, we don’t open up this piece of our heart easily.

  • The final 1/3 of our our proverbial heart has yet to be explored. We don’t yet comprehend its depth and capacity to energetically hold more love for ourselves and those around us.

  • Individuals in the US and UK in 2018 report that when they open space in their lives and homes, they feel more joy, more openness, and are willing to take greater risks in leadership, life, and love.

  • When we are weighted down—literally and figuratively—the less room we have for others. When we open space, we expand our capacity to love, we need less, and we give more.

  • The more space we create in our lives, the more we open our hearts.

Courage. It’s from the Latin word cor, meaning heart.
The original definition was to tell the story of who you are with your whole heart.
— Dr. Brené Brown

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WHY DOES THIS MATTER?

Our ONE true purpose in life is an inner & outer practice.

  • To know & love ourselves.

  • To contribute from this authentic & wholehearted place.

We cannot do either without creating courageous space for it.


DEVOTIONS FOR DELIBERATE PRACTICE

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CREATING COURAGEOUS DIGITAL SPACE

  • UTILIZE SOCIAL MEDIA TO GIVE INSTEAD OF FOR OBSERVING OR RECEIVING

  • CHOOSE CONSCIOUS PRESENCE & ENGAGEMENT OVER AMBIENT AWARENESS AND PASSIVE ENGAGEMENT

  • OBSERVE WHY YOU’RE PICKING UP THE PHONE OR CHOOSING A SCREEN

  • ESTABLISH SPECIFIC TIMES YOU WILL USE SCREENS & CHECK EMAIL DAILY

  • EVERY MONTH, DELETE UNUSED APPS ON YOUR DEVICES FOR NOW

  • ENROLL IN UNROLL.ME TO ROLL-UP OR EASILY DELETE UNWANTED SUBSCRIPTIONS

  • RELEASE ALL SOCIAL MEDIA CONNECTIONS WHEN NOT TRULY DEVOTED TO THEM

  • TAKE A DIGITAL SABBATH EVERY WEEK AS A FAMILY

  • CHECK YOUR SCREENS AT THE DOOR — IN A STORAGE BASKET AT HOME, YOUR BAG AT DINNER, SCHOOL OR GYM LOCKER, ETC.

  • THE HEART CONNECTION: OBSERVE YOUR EMOTIONS AS YOU ENGAGE DIGITALLY & RELEASE WHAT NO LONGER SERVES YOU, INCLUDING YOUR OWN BELIEFS.

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CREATING COURAGEOUS DWELLING SPACE

  • CREATE NEW REWARDS THAT OPEN YOUR SPACE INSTEAD OF FILL YOUR SPACE

  • INVEST IN YOUR CREATIVITY BY PERSONALIZING YOUR WORKSPACE(S)

  • MOVE BEYOND WHAT ‘SPARKS JOY’ AND KEEP WHAT ACTUALLY FEELS LIKE YOU

  • OBSERVE YOUR PURCHASE BEHAVIOR AND EMOTIONS. OBSERVE THE EMOTIONS ATTACHED TO THE ITEM ITSELF AS WELL AS TO THE EXPERIENCE OF BUYING

  • MAKE IT FUN: INVOLVE YOUR FAVORITE PEOPLE IN DWELLING SPACE MAINTENANCE AND RELEASE

  • HAVEN’T USED IT LATELY? RELEASE IT FOR NOW & OFFER TO A SOUL WHO CAN UTILIZE IT RIGHT NOW. IF POSSIBLE, GIVE IT AWAY.

  • CREATE A SYSTEM OF ‘ONE THING IN, TWO THINGS OUT/TO ANOTHER

  • LISTEN TO THE ENERGY OF THE SPACE: WHAT ESSENCE OF OUR NATURAL ELEMENTS—EARTH, AIR, FIRE, WATER—DOES IT NEED?

  • THE HEART CONNECTION: OBSERVE YOUR EMOTIONS IN EACH SPACE. WHAT CAUSES CONSTRICTION AND WHAT CAUSES EXPANSION?

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CREATING COURAGEOUS DEVELOPMENT SPACE

  • PROACTIVELY ASK YOUR EMPLOYER ABOUT DEVELOPMENT OFFERINGS & STIPENDS

  • MOVE YOUR BODY EVERY DAY. BUILD STRENGTH OVER TIME. MAKE IT FUN

  • SCHEDULE DEVELOPMENT INTO YOUR SCHEDULE -- MIND, BODY, & SPIRIT

  • MEDITATE. CHOOSE A FORM OF MEDITATION WORTHY OF YOUR DEVOTION

  • SLOW DOWN. ALLOW EXPERIENCES, CONVERSATIONS, & ACTIVITIES TO ACTUALLY GET INSIDE YOU

  • ALLOW THE SILENCE —AT HOME, IN THE CAR, SHOWER, IN YOUR OWN MIND

  • CHOOSE DEVELOPMENT THAT STOKES YOUR PRACTICE OF SELF-LOVE

  • THE HEART CONNECTION: NAME YOUR EMOTIONS AS THEY ARISE & FEEL THEM ALL THE WAY THROUGH UNTIL THEIR INTENSITY BEGINS TO EBB AWAY. ALLOW THE TIME, THE VOID, THE SPACE TO HEAL.

Our spaces create distraction or cultivate devotion.
— The Courage Practice

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*RESEARCH COMPILED BY THE COURAGE PRACTICE ® FROM MARKETDATA, MARKETRESEARCH, UNIVERSITY OF PENNSYLVANIA, THE MINIMALIST HOME BY JOSHUA BECKER, HEARTMATH INSTITUTE, HARVARD UNIVERSITY, FORBES, TEXAS A & M UNIVERSITY, NEW YORK TIMES, HOW TO BREAK UP WITH YOUR PHONE BY CATHERINE PRICE, AND DIGITAL MINIMALISM BY CAL NEWPORT.

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