On Closets

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We all have a coming out of the closet experience in our lives. 

Every single one of us. 

(And sometimes we have more than one.)

Breaking through the shame, the ‘shoulds,’ the limiting beliefs and courageously stepping into more of who we really are.

In honor of National Coming Out Day, let’s remember that before the pride of coming out is even possible, there must first be the practice of courage. 

ALL GOOD THINGS COME IN THREES

I’ve personally had three coming out experiences. Thus far anyway. ;)

The first one was stepping out of the closet by departing the religious community of my youth and embracing the avenues of spirituality which hold the depth of resonance, understanding, inclusion, and belonging in which I wholeheartedly believe. God holds no consistent pronoun for me anymore but rather is an ever-present River from which all love, belonging, forgiveness, and acceptance flows. My responsibility is to courageously practice abiding within the Current.

The second coming out experience was all about sexuality. Navigating through the shame, guilt, judgment, and social isolation of this closet took years. YEARS. Over time, closets run out of oxygen, though. I began to suffocate in mind, body, and spirit. I withdrew. I projected my own hurt onto the people I most love. I betrayed myself in every way. 

It took this suffocation, broken hearts, intense physical pain, and a depth of loneliness I’ll never forget to break down that closet. I was dying inside yet so desperately wanted to live. Coming out felt like tasting oxygen for the first time. I can still remember the feeling as I write today. 

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The most recent coming out experience was making the conscious choice to step further into my spiritual intuition and offer such services more openly, particularly here at The Courage Practice.

Intuition has been my best friend—BFF as we refer to it these days—since I can remember; my mother would tell you all about how Intuition and I “grew up together.” I don’t remember ever not seeing, feeling, hearing, sensing, and connecting with the intangible. But I shoved these gifts to the back of the closet because being a spiritual vessel absolutely terrified me. 

After intense training, development, mentorship, and practice in recent years, I have deeply loved crossing this threshold and opening my hands up to serving others with these spiritual gifts through Soul Courage intuitive readings, coaching, and mediumship. 

HERE IS WHAT I KNOW TO BE TRUE

Within every closet we humans experience, a time arrives when NOT crossing the threshold is absolutely as terrifying as what may meet us on the other side. This moment is when courage becomes our friend in that dark, small, isolating cavern of fear. 

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I have grown to appreciate closets in a brand new way ever since these experiences. This may sound odd but even when I’m folding my laundry and hanging my clothes, these experiences rise up in my heart.

And I love nothing more than supporting brilliant souls to look their fears in the eye and cross their own thresholds with courage and grace. 

National Coming Out Day isn’t just a day; it is a beacon of light on the calendar that reminds all of us—no matter our closet—that being who we truly, deeply are is the one purpose we collectively share.

It’s time to spend less energy talking about our walls and the differences we place between us. It’s suffocating us. We’re hurting each other. We’re betraying ourselves and our humanity.

Let’s instead start honoring the space between these walls by meeting each other there and bearing witness to the thresholds we all courageously cross every day.

With you in the practice,

 
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WE ALL HAVE CLOSETS OF SOME KIND.

WHAT’S YOUR COMING OUT STORY?

OR DROP YOUR THOUGHTS IN THE COMMENTS BELOW.

I’D LOVE TO HEAR FROM YOU.


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ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

An intuitive leadership and life coach for 14 years and founder of The Courage Practice™Tonyalynne Wildhaber coaches individuals, leaders, coaches, and soulful entrepreneurs to make friends with their courage, integrate wisdom with strategy, step into their highest potential, and transform their abundance and life from the inside out.

Tonyalynne is a frequent contributor to Forbes and Thrive Global. She is head-over-heels in love with the Pacific Northwest, loves iced coffee in all weather, and is attempting to train a dog named Ollie.

Courage in practice continuously transforms Tonyalynne’s own life in countless ways. She believes in the power of its practice and its connection to living out our highest purpose and for navigating challenge and transition with greater ease. She loves collaborating with others in cultivating their own unique practice of courage and welcomes such connection with you. Click here to book a complimentary consultation.


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