On Release


My heart has been rolling in the deep lately. I’ve been resisting what I know to be true.

The kind of truth that rises up from our deepest knowing. The kind we cannot dismiss. Even when we want to…

Maybe you can relate.

The Pacific Northwest is in a season of letting go. So am I.

It is time to open my hands. To cling less to what I think I want and open my hands and heart to what is meant for me.

Resistance does nothing but create more suffering and heartache. Feeling our feels all the damn way through is plenty — no need to add more struggle by resisting what IS at the same time.


In a season of turning leaves, I’ve been taking in this season for what it truly is — a turning of the page. A quiet, vibrant transition of release into winter’s raw.

To feel every color and windchill. To don my favorite scarf, boots, and to lean into the wind, feeling it all.

Leaves change color, shape, and let go silently. They resist nothing. So too must I.

Feel what is happening. Engage it, look it in the eye, forgive myself, and then release.


  • Release the beginnings not experienced.

  • Release the messy middles.

  • Release the endings that rushed in before true exploration began.

  • Release the things left unsaid.

  • Release the pain you’re trying to manage.

  • Release the beautiful people you love yet must let go.

  • Release the weight no longer serving you.

  • Release the weight you’re carrying to protect yourself.

  • Release the weight you’ve been holding onto that is not your own.

  • Release the ‘shoulds’.

  • Release the desire to get it ‘right’ before you take action.

  • Release the fear you have even in publishing this vulnerable post.



This is the practice.

This practice is found in the little choices as much as the big ones. Courage isn’t just about heroic moments; it is equally about deeply human ones.

The practice is simple but rarely easy. It asks of our vulnerability, courage, self-compassion, and open hands in every moment.

When we desire to hold on, we must let go.

Whether a whisper, nudge, or shove, our inner knowing will always speak the truth. It will let us know change is in the wind and releasing our grasp on what we want is necessary to open ourselves up for new goodness to enter and expand within us.

Today the tears feel close, the words run dry. I’m knee-deep in the practice and learning right alongside all of you, dear friends. So wherever this finds you, may you follow the nudges of your deepest knowing to feel, forgive, and release. And if you too are rolling in the deep this week, I see you. I hear you. And I’m listening.

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An intuitive leadership and life coach for 14 years and founder of The Courage Practice™Tonyalynne Wildhaber coaches individuals, leaders, coaches, and soulful entrepreneurs to make friends with their courage, integrate wisdom with strategy, step into their highest potential, and transform their abundance and life from the inside out.

Tonyalynne is a frequent contributor to Forbes and Thrive Global. She is head-over-heels in love with the Pacific Northwest, loves iced coffee in all weather, and is attempting to train a dog named Ollie.

Courage in practice continuously transforms Tonyalynne’s own life in countless ways. She believes in the power of its practice and its connection to living out our highest purpose and for navigating challenge and transition with greater presence and ease. She loves collaborating with others in cultivating their own unique practice of courage and welcomes such connection with you. Click here to book a complimentary consultation.