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Whether we find ourselves in the winter of our lives or not, THIS IS HOW: SURVIVING WHAT YOU THINK YOU CAN’T is a powerful, deeply raw, pulls-no-punches guidebook.

I have revisited this book several times since first stumbling upon it several years ago following the end of a relationship. Augusten’s words crystallized in plain detail what I was looking for within myself. He strips away the pretense and asks his readers to stare directly at life. I love him for it. I revisited this book again in early winter of this year because I knew it was time to whittle away false narratives sneaking their way back into my mind. Broken into specific chapters on how to be or do a specific thing, Burroughs adeptly challenges you to own your bullshit and live with deep honesty — beginning with yourself.

Are you vacillating between telling yourself the truth or subscribing to the affirmations of others? Read this book. Are you constantly in a state of worry about something? Read this book. Are you preparing for or in the heart of deep grief, change, or transition? Read this book. Have you always wanted a down-to-the-floor-of-the-earth approach to self-development? Read this book. We needn’t be in a place of survival to find fuel and meaning in its pages but if we are, this is a damn good blueprint. Snag your copy of THIS IS HOW here.

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An intuitive leadership and life coach for 14 years and founder of The Courage Practice™, Tonyalynne Wildhaber coaches individuals, leaders, coaches, and soulful entrepreneurs to make friends with their courage. Using a unique approach of integrating inner wisdom with outer strategy, she partners with you to step into your highest potential, navigate challenge and transition with greater ease, and transform your abundance and life from the inside out.

Tonyalynne is a frequent contributor to Forbes and Thrive Global. She is head-over-heels in love with the Pacific Northwest, loves iced coffee in all weather, and is attempting to train a dog named Ollie.


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