Letters to My Mother

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Happy Mother’s Day to an incredible soul.

To a woman with a passionate heart, a fierce spirit, patience beyond all reckoning, wisdom running deep, and compassion etched within the marrow of her bones.

To a woman who wasn’t afraid to dig deep into the earth of a garden or the dirt of a soul, all with strong and tender hands.

To a woman who cooked without recipes, painted without a vision, played the piano with abandon, and cleaned everything with a graceful vengeance.

To a woman whose smile lit up a room and my world.

To her humor that spilled out in subtle ways — from the well-timed comedic response or body language flair to powerfully punctuate a sentence. From the blue twinkle of her eyes to the warmth felt within even ten feet of her presence.

To a woman whose death was as graceful and merciful as her life.

If you were here now, I would say all these things and more, call you when I’m busy to respect you, send you funny pics and texts simply to teach you how to use a smartphone, sing and dance in the kitchen with wooden spoons as mics with you, travel to the beach with you, help you find those oft-missing eyeglasses, take care of you when you grow old, give you a hug and not let go. 

The truth is that I could have loved you better.

I always thought I’d have more time.

I was too busy hustling for the worthiness of seasonal friends and experiences.

I had the time to call, the time to visit — I just didn’t make the time. I’m so sorry.

Thank you for loving me even when I got it wrong.

Thank you for fighting to bring me to this earth, even when people didn’t believe I was still alive within you. And I’m still so deeply grateful for the opportunity to have quietly walked you home in those final hours—just you and I together. 

For all you have given me in your life, your kindness, your courage, and your death, I love you.

~Always your girl

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An intuitive leadership and life coach for 14 years and founder of The Courage Practice®, Tonyalynne Wildhaber coaches individuals, leaders, coaches, and soulful entrepreneurs to make friends with their courage in a conscious way.

With a unique approach of integrating inner wisdom with outer strategy, she partners with you to courageously step into your highest potential, navigate challenge and transition with greater ease, and transform your abundance and life from the inside out.

Tonyalynne is a member of the Forbes Coaches Council specifically for her integrated leadership and life development approach. She is a frequent contributor to Forbes, WomELLE, and Thrive Global. She is head-over-heels in love with the Pacific Northwest, drinks iced coffee in all weather, and is attempting to train a little Yorkie named Ollie.


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