IMPERFECT COURAGE PART II DISCUSSION PROMPTS
CHAPTER five: embrace vulnerability
“We can’t grow without vulnerability, and we can’t be vulnerable alone.“
We are seldom ‘ready’ for vulnerability; it’s about showing up and being seen regardless of how ready we feel. Where would you like to be more vulnerable in your life?
What will this vulnerability give you?
How can the other people involved best support you?
“Vulnerability is the willingness to take meaningful risk without knowing the outcome”
Take a moment to consider the meaningful risks you’ve taken in your life where you didn’t know the outcome. Name them now, jot them down.
What commonalities do they hold?
What have these risks taught you?
Have you ever had a meaningful risk not work out well? What did you learn?
What wisdom from these past experiences of risk can you integrate into your life now?
CHAPTER six: create compassionate spaces
“How can we go about creating compassionate spaces for ourselves and one another? All it takes is a scroll through a heated thread on a Facebook post to see that we could use a lesson or two in this…In leading a community and running a business, I have seen three harmful patterns that keep us from living the sort of lives we were made to live.”
We compare instead of collaborate with each other.
We judge instead of empathize with each other.
We stand by instead of fight for each other.
(And I’ll add another one.) We observe rather than engage with one another, which is similar to the bystander effect Jessica speaks of in Part II.
What do you believe is central to creating compassionate spaces?
How do we lean more toward joy than comparison?
The root of the word ENCOURAGE is ‘to engage the courage in another.’ How do you appreciate being encouraged?
"I want a life of hope, a life catalyzed by compassion that propels us to act instead of just perpetually scrolling through a digital life that is really no life at all.
I want us all to be people who cultivate compassion and create spaces of belonging for those around us.
But if we’re going to get there, we’ve got some work to do—especially in terms of how we connect with the women around us…”
Where do you crave more sisterhood and meaningful connection?
Where can you offer more engagement and encouragement to cultivate this sisterhood?
Take a moment to consider one person in your life who could use a rope toss right now. Commit to offering them this rope by way of time, service, support, energy, you decide…
Following this proverbial rope toss, take note of how YOU feel.
CHAPTER seven: discover the sisterhood effect
“…We all want the same things—to be seen, to be accepted, to be known, to be loved. We want wholeness. We want connection. We want hope.
We extend the circle of compassion we have drawn around ourselves to include others when we embrace this vulnerable truth: It could have been me.
When we bravely choose to empathize with people who are in painful circumstances, rather than judge them, we become not only a balm for their souls but a dose of courage for our own. We come to realize that yes, we may all be vulnerable to pain, but if we keep showing up for one another during that pain, we will find the courage to weather what comes.”
Be honest with yourself. Where do you give more side-eye than compassion and empathy?
When was the first time you started giving side-eye in this way? Think back…what prompted this response for the very first time? Bring this memory to the light of your awareness.
Where do you desire to grow in mercy and empathy rather than judgment? How can you begin by doing so with yourself?
CHAPTER eight: commit to collaboration
There is a mini course here at The Courage Practice centered on Courageous Listening wherein we focus on learning to listen well in order to communicate well. Jessica speaks of listening well and offering positive reinforcement responses to foster collaboration and connection, particularly in high stakes conversation. Which of these have you tried in your own dialogue?
Tell me more.
I would love to understand your perspective more fully here.
Tell me what I can do better.
How can I love you well?
I have a lot to learn from you.
Is there more that you would like to share?
Our own assumptions get the in way far more often than other peoples’ assumptions. Jessica brings to light on page 144 the need for generous assumption, rational assessment, clarifying conversation, and grace to cultivate strong collaboration.
Choose two of the four areas above to consciously practice this week. Just two.
Take note of what you learn by doing so within your interactions.
Don’t forget to come into our FB group to share your experiences if you feel led. Allow us to see you and support you in your practice.
“If you believe in what you’re hustling for, then let your passion come out in your words. Don’t keep it all to yourself. Invite others to join you in this beautiful thing you’re building. People long to be needed, to contribute.”
What will you ask your community for this week? How can you engage them in your work, your passion, your dream(s)?
Offer the same in kind for another.
IMPERFECT COURAGE PART II DISCUSSION WRAP:
What resonates most with you from Part II? What will stick with you?
What would have made Part II even better?
How will you integrate what you learned in Part II into your own life?
I invite you to be specific. I also invite you to empower yourself to embed what you’re learning into your day-to-day in a clear way. Allow this book to be a nudge for action wherever you feel called to move, friend.