This weekend, war was chosen again—with devastating ease. In moments like this, many of us feel the pull to harden, to turn off the news, to numb out. But what if the most courageous act we can offer isn’t disconnection—it’s presence?

In this raw and timely letter, intuitive coach and writer Tonyalynne Wildhaber explores how emotional resilience, grief literacy, and revolutionary tenderness offer us a path forward when force and domination are once again chosen on the world stage. What if our culture’s obsession with control is really a fear of intimacy? What if war is a symptom of our refusal to stay with what hurts?

This letter is a call to root before we rise. It is a reckoning, a prayer, and a reminder that real power comes not from numbness—but from staying soft when the world tries to harden us.

Read the full letter: To the One Who’s Still Willing to Feel in a Country That Chooses Force

We talk a lot about the risk of change. But what we don’t talk about enough is the risk of staying right where we are. This letter isn’t a push. It’s a moment of truth. And maybe it’s the one you’ve been waiting for…

You want to be alive. You want to bloom from your bones. You want to wake up to yourself, moaning with meaning. And you can…

Some truths don’t arrive all at once. They whisper. They circle. They stretch themselves into dreams and memories and conversations we didn’t know we were still having. If you’re metabolizing more than words can hold right now, this letter is for you…

This body—your body—is not something to fix. Not something to apologize for. Not something that has betrayed you…

Joy does not come in the absence of pain. It is not something we earn when we have finally smoothed out all the rough edges. No, joy is born in the very center of it all—when we allow discomfort to exist without resistance, when we find within ourselves…