To the One who’s Done Choosing Almost

Dear friend,

You know what it’s like to settle.

To settle for almost—to dance with the idea of something real, all the while knowing it’s not fully here.

You’ve let the burn of unfulfilled potential smolder in your chest, whispering promises of what could be, while your soul trembles in the space between longing and truth. Yet almost is nothing but smoke—an illusion keeping you from the fire you deserve.

Almost is a lie. It’s not love.

It’s the absence of it. It’s the sweet story we tell ourselves so we don’t have to face the flames of what we’re truly worthy of.

But really—deep, deep down—you are done with this charade. Almost doesn’t ignite you, doesn’t leave you breathless. Almost holds back the fire of your innermost desires, demands you shrink to fit, change to align.

You deserve more than almost.

You deserve what pulls you in, sets you ablaze, and makes you feel every inch of your power. You deserve love that doesn't flinch in the face of your wildness, your darkness, your raw, unkempt, and scarred beauty. A love that will meet you at the very edges of your growth and say, “Yes. All of it. Bring it forward. I want to know and love all of you.”

This isn’t about being chosen. It’s about being seen.

We are here to be met, not managed. We are here to burn with an intensity so hot it makes our world stand still. The kind of love that doesn’t try to tame us—it fuels us. It champions us. The kind of love that looks at our fire, feels the heat, adds wood, and leans in closer. We are not here to be reigned in. We are here to be held—every part of us.

So why have you been choosing almost for so long?

Because almost keeps you safe. Almost lets you keep one foot in, while the other foot stays safely planted outside the flames. Almost lets you pretend the fire isn’t burning, when really, you might just be too afraid to let it have its way with you.

Maybe you've been afraid of your smoldering self. Afraid of your own power. Afraid of how high the phoenix within you could actually rise. But that’s not living. That’s hiding.

Let’s explore the truth: What’s scarier to you?

Being alone—or being invited into the full fire of abundance?

Almost keeps you in the shadows, love. It lets you watch from the sidelines but never fully step into the inferno of all that you deserve. It lets you dip your toes in the heat, but never feel the full body-shattering intensity of love that makes you more of yourself while accepting you for all that you are.

Can you imagine being seen—fully? And then held?

Can you feel the weight of your own desire, letting it burn you open until nothing is hidden? Can you stand in your truth—raw and utterly exposed—and still be drenched in joy and pleasure? Can you imagine the fire that awaits you when you stop holding yourself back?

Your nervous system knows the truth too.

It knows that almost isn’t enough.

That confusion, the push & pull, the turmoil—that’s not chemistry. It’s chaos masked as chemistry. The tension—it feels alive but it’s really just a distraction. It’s your body trying to make sense of something that can’t hold all of you.

Because real chemistry? Real chemistry doesn’t make you shrink. It doesn’t demand you become something else to fit.

It invites you to expand, to be more of yourself. It champions you to be more of yourself. Real chemistry embraces you in your fullness without the drama, without the chaos. It makes you feel alive—but in a way that doesn’t burn you out, in a way that lets you stay in your power. It stokes the fire in your eyes.

And now you stand at the threshold. You know that almost isn't enough. And the question before you is:

Where are you still accepting almost instead of the fullness you deserve?

What’s keeping you from claiming what will ask for all of you? You are not here to be tolerated. You are not here to be loved halfway. You are here to be known. Fully. And if you can’t see it yet, trust me:

The kind of love you deserve? It will scorch you awake with the intensity of a thousand sunsets.

You’ll rise from the flames—more fierce, more alive than ever. Let go of the almost. Let it burn away. Let it burn like paper caught in the wind, disappearing in the heat of all the love and goodness that’s coming for you.

Let it clear the space for what’s real.

Let almost burn.

Practice Postscript

The Reflection:

• Where are you still accepting almost in your life—romantically, professionally, or within yourself? Write a list of every place in your life that feels like almost.

• What would it look like to let go of almost and fully claim the love, the power, and the life you deserve?

The Everyday Practice:

• Write a letter to the version of you who stayed too long, who kept hoping things would shift, who believed that almost was enough.

• Then write a letter to the version of you who is ready to claim all of who you are—the one who knows you deserve a full-bodied YES.

Living in the Question:

• What would it take for you to stop settling for almost and start stepping into the fullness you deserve—knowing that it will require all of you?